Early postpartum is a big transition, regardless of whether this is the first or fifth baby. It is filled with an array of emotions, wonderful bonding, snuggles and connection, but it’s a disservice not to share that more likely than not there will be struggles and this will look and feel different for everyone. So you won’t find things on this list like “paint the nursery” or “buy 50 swaddles”. The goal of this list is to make sure you have the physical and emotional support to heal, connect, and navigate the tough times in early postpartum.

7 Things to Do Now to Make Postpartum Easier

1. Set-Up a Meal Train

A meal train is a great tool that allows friends and family to support you in the early days of parenthood by signing up to bring you a meal. Getting this set-up ahead of time allows you to customize when and what you’d like to magically appear on your porch. It also helps prevent 8 people from bringing you lasagna during the first week of parenting and have nothing set up for week 2 or 3.

2. Stock Freezer Meals

Stocking the freezer with a variety of easily defrosted meals is a lifesaver. Soups, stews, broth, and mashes all freeze and defrost well. We store soup in silicone bags in the freezer and pop that giant ice cube out into the slow cooker to reheat.

3. Hire a Postpartum Doula

This is well worth the investment. A postpartum doula is a trained professional there to support parents in the early days of parenting with evidence based support with infant care, feeding, physical and emotional recovery and more. Some doulas provide sibling support as well. If you’re in the Portland area check out Portland Doula Love to find a doula that meets your personality, needs and budget.

4. Make a Joy List

Make a list of activities that you enjoy; that make you feel like YOU. My partner and I both compiling the following lists: activities we enjoy alone, enjoy together, some that cost money and some that are free.

For example, listening to podcast and taking a walk is something free that I enjoy alone. Going out for brunch is something we enjoy together. Carve out time each day for something on your joy list.

5. Create a Postpartum Plan with your Partner.

Identify how you want to feel during the first few weeks, months and year postpartum. What do you want and need in place to support recovery, rehabilitation and rebuilding? What does leave look like for your family? If you’re getting ready to welcome a new baby, be sure sure to check out my Planning for a Better Postpartum course!

6. Identify your support team

Who can you call when you’re ugly crying on the kitchen floor? Who can come over to listen and you don’t worry about cleaning the bathroom?

What about your professional support team? Midwife, chiropractor, acupuncturist, coach, therapist? Write down names and phone numbers, and identify when and what would be a good sign to call in extra help.

What support groups are local to you? Don’t wait until you’re in the thick of it to start to search for new moms’ groups or find that postpartum movement class. Ask your OB or Midwife if they recommend any groups.

7. Ask for help

Identify areas where you need additional support and make the ask now rather than in the moment. Do you have attention loving pets? Ask a few friends to take them to the dog park. Do you have other kiddos? Set-up some playdates. Consider asking for help with housework or setting up a fund for a few house-cleaning sessions.

 

If this isn’t your first postpartum experience, reflect on your first postpartum experience: what worked well for you? what caught you off-guard? Where do you need more support this time around?