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Embracing your body after pregnancy isn’t easy. Most of us walk into motherhood understanding there will be a lack of sleep and ample spit-up stained shirts, but I don’t think we are prepared for the disconnected, and sometimes unrecognizable postpartum body. With the social media messaging limited to “get your body back” or “embrace your tiger stripes” it’s no wonder we are left feeling alone and less than.
Maybe you’ve already joined me in saying F U to the “get your body back” messaging, but it’s a BIG jump to embracing those tiger stripes and fully loving your postpartum body. The conversation is more nuanced than this love-hate dichotomy presents. Plus, if you’ve experienced pregnancy loss, like I have, then this relationship may be even more complicated.
Okay not really, because yoga pants definitely still make up 75% of my wardrobe, but ditch what the “yoga pants” may represent. Don’t wait to hit a certain size/weight/unicorn status to get clothes that fit and make you feel like the GD queen you are. You deserve to dress your rocking mom-bod in a way that makes you feel confident and sexy AF.
When I was 3 or 4 months postpartum and feeling 4 months pregnant, I was sporting the saggiest, saddest pair of jeans. They were the only thing in my closet that fit and I didn’t know how to buy new clothes for this unfamiliar body. Maternity clothes were too big, my pre-pregnancy clothes were way too small. So I was left with these saggy jeans and some threadbare yoga pants. I looked exactly how I felt: like crap.
But I was tired of feeling crap. Rushing my postpartum recovery and stressing to lose weight wasn’t the answer (which side note: stress makes weight loss damn near impossible). I finally decided I’d find clothes to fit my body well in this season.
Action step: Find an outfit you feel really good in.
Body positivity and seeking change don’t need to be contradictory. To find the intersection, we need to understand two very important things:
Remember when I bought those new jeans? I gave myself a pep talk with these two rules before I walked into the store. The size of jeans has nothing to do with my value. This is the season my body is in (a squishy, wide hipped season). If the jeans don’t fit? That’s the brand’s loss, not mine.
Implementing these two rules asks us to notice without judgement. This takes some serious practice, but is well worth it. If you’re looking in the mirror, notice and tell the judgey voice to STFU, if necessary.
Noticing without judgment:
My belly is really squishy today and I have dimples on my thighs.
Noticing with judgment:
My belly is really squishy today and I have dimples on my thighs, so clearly I am a worthless slug of a human being.
See the difference? The first statement is entirely true. My belly is very squishy today and I do have dimples on my thighs. BUT the conclusions that this makes me a worthless slug of a human is entirely false.
Body positivity and seeking change don’t need to be contradictory. You can seek change from an empowered place, by embracing the season you are in and understanding that your value is not rooted in your size.
Action step: Practice noticing without judgement.
Self-care is more than bubble baths and charcoal masks, though we are a fan of both. Self-care is about filling your cup, rather than drawing from it. Practice whole self-care by supporting your physical, social, emotional and mental health. Ask yourself “What can I do to take care of my physical/social/emotional/mental health today?”
Action Step: Intentionally practice whole self-care each day.
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