Welcome to my messy, joyful, and perfectly imperfect version of motherhood. I’m a nutritional therapy practitioner and certified pre & postnatal coach. I’m here to help you move through motherhood with ease!
Pregnancy and infant loss totally fucking sucks. Yes, harsh language, but I feel like there is no other way to put it. Whether you carried to 6 weeks or 36 weeks or lost your beautiful babe in those first few days, losing a child is like no other kind of grief and trauma. And when you’re in the throes of grief, it may seem impossible to know how to nourish your body after pregnancy loss. But repeat after me: you are still worthy of postpartum care after pregnancy.
Whether you count yourself among the 1 in 4 women who experience early pregnancy loss or the 1 in 160 who experience stillbirth, it’s important to acknowledge that your body and mind are deserving and worthy of nourishment. I’ve experienced both full-term stillbirth and the loss of a “chemical” pregnancy. I grieved both of these losses very differently, but they were both impactful. While it may feel impossible to focus on healing in the early days of loss, acknowledge that your mind and body have undergone substantial changes through the course of pregnancy, even if you experienced loss “before the bump.”
Whether you experienced a first trimester miscarriage or a full term stillbirth, you underwent substantial physiological changes, which means you need intentional nourishment, especially after loss.
Just some of the changes that occurred (that you may have not seen)
All this physiological change is on top of the emotional trauma that is losing your baby. It is completely unfair and utter bullshit.
After loss, nourishing your body now may feel like the last thing you want to do, but you deserve and need so much care. Intentionally nourish your body after pregnancy loss to encourage physical healing and ease the overwhelming tidal wave of grief.
The timeframe to return to exercise will differ for everyone, but my favorite rule of thumb is your intentional recovery time should match the length of your pregnancy. So if you miscarried at 6 weeks, spend 6 weeks focusing on recovery. If you lost your pregnancy at full term, spend nine months on recovery.
Now the physiological impact between 6 weeks and 9 months are substantially different.
So what does intentional recovery look like?
If you experience any pain or pelvic floor dysfunction as you progress, take it back a few steps.
Try these restorative movement poses
Eating well is one of the best ways to nourish your body after pregnancy loss and support your mood, energy and healing. You may not have much of an appetite, but focus on incorporating plenty of iron-rich meats, warming soups, antioxidant rich veggies, and collagen rich proteins when you can. Collagen and iron are crucial to postpartum recovery after loss when your body and mind is in an intense state of grieving and processing, while rebuilding. Bright colored veggies and dark berries contain Vitamin C, which is necessary for proper collagen synthesis and healing connective tissue. The antioxidant component to vitamin C limits the effects of free radicals, which increase with the inflammatory response to wound healing.
These foods help heal and rebuild your body, reduce inflammation, and may reduce feelings of anxiety as you get essential nutrients.
My favorite recipes for well-being include:
Ask a family member or friend to whip these up for you, so you can focus on rest.
Sleep makes time for healing, both emotionally and physically, and it may be all you want to do and yet feel totally impossible. Another unfair load of bullshit from the universe. Women who’ve experienced loss are more susceptible to postpartum mood disorders and getting as much quality sleep as possible can help deter this. Poor sleep is associated with depression, independent of other risk factors (like the super shitty life altering event: loss)
If you’re having trouble sleeping, which makes perfect sense, try: